We’ve all heard the saying, “When you fall down, just get back up.” Conveying the whole idea of being resilient and strong. Having the ability to bounce back after we experience something stressful or difficult in our lives, which of course leaves us feeling anything but strong. It’s not always as simple as just getting back up. I know.
As a health and wellness coach, I am somewhat held accountable by the fact that I’m here to help guide others and must thus, lead them by example. Normally, this responsibility is my fuel to stay on top of my health: eating well, exercising consistently, sleeping enough, and being productive. Normally.
I’m here today to tell you that normally is not always. And that actually the world always is kind of like the word perfect in that, it doesn’t exist. There is bound to be at least one exception (often times many exceptions) to always and perfection. Otherwise, we wouldn’t be human.
Part of what makes us human is that we make mistakes (after all, this is how we learn, right?). We have this wonderful power called choice. We can choose to do or not do anything. And of course, as humans, we’re complicated. With our complex cognitive abilities. Emotions. Attachments. Subconscious. It’s pretty trippy to think about how intricate it is just to be human.
This photo of me looks similar to others I have posted on my Instagram over the past two months. Physically, I look good! Yes. But, I’m not including this photo to show that I have abs or biceps (thank goodness those muscles don’t just vanish after a couple weeks of being shifty with your health and fitness though).
I’m including this photo because, regardless of how fit and healthy I may appear, my mind isn’t in a good place. I feel like I have fallen down. Into the dark, grimy, sticky depths of… I don’t even know. Laziness? Like my routine has been totally shattered. I feel void of energy and spirit. I feel depressed, like I could just stay in bed all day. I feel like binge eating whatever I want. And I’ve actually been doing those things!
For the past couple of weeks, I haven’t been present on social media like normal. I haven’t been getting in bed at a decent hour and waking up early. I haven’t been doing my workouts everyday (and the days I do them, I pretty much half ass them). I haven’t been as productive as I know I could be. My discipline seems to have died.
All of this adds up to me just feeling like a failure. Like a total let down to myself and to those who look to me for guidance and help with their health and well-being. I woke up at 11:30 AM today because I couldn’t sleep last night. I ate a bunch of food and had a little pity party until I finally passed out around 4:30 AM. Pathetic right?
Wrong. I know why I couldn’t sleep! I lost sight of my goals. My drive.
I’ve been neglecting the things I know my body and mind crave to be healthy and happy. I know what it takes to feel my best because I’ve felt it before. When I am getting adequate, quality sleep, waking up early and making a healthy breakfast, getting my workout in everyday and going hard with it, drinking lots of water, showing up to all of my commitments – that is when I feel my best.
That is when I have energy and creativity and motivation to challenge myself everyday.
Why is health and wellness my career field of choice? Because of the difference I feel when I’m practicing a lifestyle that supports and nourishes my long-term wellness versus one that feeds only my fleeting desires. A good analogy would be: acknowledging the true self versus the ego. Obviously, the ego is more fun in the moment, but our true self understands that life is much more than just a single moment.
Moral of the story: allow yourself to be human. However, when you ignore your true self for too long, you’re neglecting your well-being.
Our overall health is not determined by one meal; it is crafted over years and years of choices and patterns in our diet.
It’s important to understand this and not get caught up on one indulgent meal. On the other hand, realize that each day’s choices compound on the days past and will on the days to come.
Everyone is different. We all have different physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual needs. Experiment with it. Find out what works for you and then remember how it makes you feel. Remind yourself of that when you “fall down” or whatever we silly humans do. That will ignite you and give you the strength to get back up.